I'm writing this blog the day after a gathering of Your Live Well Journey Connect, a group I started earlier this year. We're a group of women varying in age with diverse backgrounds. What brings us together is our commitment to enhancing our self-care, health and wellness practices. Once a month we meet with the intention of supporting, encouraging, uplifting, and inspiring one another.
One of the discussions we had last night was about what self-care looked like when we were growing up. If you've never given yourself time to explore this topic before, I suggest you do. You see, the way you currently feel about self-care has come, in large part, from your past. It's what has helped create your self-care story.
Some of the questions you might consider asking yourself are:
What examples of self-care was I shown from the influential women in my life?
Was self-care talked about when I was growing up? What, if anything, was said about it?
When I think about self-care, what feelings come up for me?
The two words I hear most often in response to the last question are, shame and guilt. Do those feelings come up for you?
Your experiences when you were a little girl have helped create the woman you are today. Acknowledging and giving words to your past experiences, helps you to better understand the patterns and beliefs that you may be (unconsciously) repeating.
Clarity of your past helps open the door of new possibilities for your future.
Without judgment, acknowledge what you were taught (if anything) about self-care. Are you currently repeating history? Are you living in patterns that don't serve you? Have you been holding onto beliefs that you're now ready to let go of? Having this awareness will help you shift out of the old and embrace the new. These are the first steps required to helping you develop self-care practices that last a lifetime, not just a few months.
Over the years, I've learned what life was like for women in my family. Having this knowledge has been incredibly influential for me. I credit knowing where I've come from as being one of the reasons I've been able to create lasting self-care practices in my life.
I encourage you to gather information, knowledge, and understanding of the women who influenced you as you were growing into a woman. Who you are today doesn't have to be a replicate of them and it most certainly doesn't have to be who were yesterday.
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